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I loved my husband for his steady nature, and I loved the warm feeling when I leant against his broad shoulders. However, two years into marriage, I had to admit, that I was getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, had now transformed into the ca<a href=”http://glsindia.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/Love.jpg”>
</a>use of all my restlessness.
I was a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it came to a relationship. I yearned for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband was my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage had disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce. “Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired; there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, deep in thought.
My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who couldn’t even express his predicament! What else could I hope from him? But, finally he asked me: “What can I do to change your mind?”
Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I had started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you still do it for me?”
He said: “I will give you my answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that went…. “My dear, I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further”… This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading. “When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, and I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city; I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month; I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die… ”
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and I continued to read, “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am outside with your favorite bread and fresh milk…”
I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and the loaf of bread….
Now I was very sure that no one would ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…
That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies between peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, and it could be the dullest and boring form… flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments…
The Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (I Corinthians 13: 4-8) It is upto us to recognize and value this wonderful emotion that God has placed in our lives and thank Him daily for spouses who have put into practice this undying love.